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 Phenomenon (1996)
IMDB rating: 6.20
Plot: The main character (John Travolta) observes a strange light on his birthday at a bar. The following days he becomes very intell-i-gent and puts the intell-i-gence to good use in his community. When word gets around he becomes known as a freak and everyone wants to figure out why this happened to a car mechanic. The government also wants to get their hands on it to put it to other uses.
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Directors: Turteltaub Jon
Actors: Travolta John,Whitaker Forest,Duvall Robert,DeMunn Jeffrey,Kiley Richard,Spiner Brent,Ruginis Vyto,Young Bruce A.,Milhoan Michael,O’Bryan Sean,Gallagher David,Genaro Tony,Evans Troy,Drama,Romance,Fantasy,
Misconceptions about coming out as bisexual: whatever happened to monogamy!?!?
A lot of people who come out to their partners as bisexual think that it gives them the right to explore or to have relationships outside of their marriage. WTF? Just because your explorations are on someone of the same or opposite sex, that does not give you the right to polygamy/cheating. What a ridiculous justification!
Can someone explain this phenomenon to me? So, it’s right to cheat on your partner as long as the new one is of a different sex!? Isn’t it more about commitment than orientation?
The Unseen Shadow, I don’t think partners are different strain of vegetables, so that does undermine the metaphor a good deal. lol. Good analogy. I’m kiddin.
OK, I’ve heard this twice and one time, it was on a coming out after marriage story and what pissed me off was that the wife accepted it! And they were crying and emotional about it! IT"S STILL CHEATING! I don’t get how the guy can go screw other men just because he’s bisexual! Just come clear with your wife first.
Hmm, i can’t say i have heard of this before.
Although, i think that if you were married to someone of the opposite sex, and discovered only then your bisexuality, not exploring that side would be pretty hellish. It’s like working out you like potatoes, but never being allowed to because you’re committed to the carrots. However, what if carrots knew you wanted to try the potatoes? Wouldn’t it put more strain on your relationship with carrots demanding that you stay the hell away from potatoes, and with every passing day you want potatoes more and more until you can’t resist and really do cheat on carrots?
However, what if you had carrots consent? Just to try Potatoes at least, just to have that experience and release? Wouldn’t that strengthen your relationship with carrots?
There are all kinds of love, and attraction is one of them. A very strong one.
(Sorry about the weird metaphor)
The Unseen Shadow | Feb 01, 2010
I’m bisexual and I do not believe that it is alright to cheat on a partner regardless of who you cheat with.
I came out to my former partner as being bisexual but I knew from previous experiences, it wasn’t as if I had been messing around while with her or even after I told her. I do not understand people who think it is "all okay" to cheat.
Jimmy | Feb 01, 2010
I’m gay. Personally, if my boyfriend came out as bisexual to me, I wouldn’t want him to stray into a relationship with a woman. If he needed time to discover himself, that would be fine and I’d give him his space, but I’m not here for his backup if a relationship with a woman falls through.
That said, these are only the terms I put on my own relationship(s). I would never judge the terms of another person’s relationship/marriage any more than I want someone to judge my own relationship with a member of the same gender.
The conditions you set in your own marriage is fine. But you don’t have the right to judge how other people treat and act in their own.
Jonathan | Feb 01, 2010
cheating should have nothing to do with your sexuality. just because a guy likes girls doesn’t give him the excuse to cheat. I’m not sure why cheating is associated with bisexuality. I wish I knew.
SK | Feb 01, 2010
It depends on the couple actually…if they’re both okay with it, then why not? I wouldn’t mind being in a relationship with three for example. But all women…
star demon | Feb 01, 2010
Why do you seem to define all bisexual people as ‘cheaters’? ‘Cheaters’ are ‘cheaters’, be they heterosexuals, bisexuals, homosexuals or pansexuals, only when they choose to seek others for sexual purposes outside of a current monogamous relationship without the knowledge and consent of their partner.
A generalization like the one you seem to be making is incorrect. Homosexuality, Bisexuality, Heterosexuality, Pansexuality (and Asexuality) are sexual orientations, not sexual lifestyles in themselves. A person who is responsible enough to end a relationship with one partner before beginning another relationship with another partner (no matter the gender of the ex-partner or the new partner) is not a cheater.
Cheating is an attempt to change or circumvent the rules and commitments that two people establish between themselves at the start of a monogamous relationship. A cheater is a liar (to both oneself and to their partner) who chooses not to honor the commitments they have made to their partner.
The point I’m trying to make is there are plenty of ‘cheaters’ found within almost all forms of sexual orientation. Cheating, or the desire to cheat, is not exclusive to one particular sexual orientation.
So, it’s right to cheat on your partner as long as the new one is of a different sex?
No.
Isn’t it more about commitment than orientation?
Exactly, Cheating or not cheating is completely about commitment, but not at all about sexual orientation.
PetroGuy | Feb 01, 2010